#12 [2026/CBR18] One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El Akkad

I found One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This [One Day] (2025) by Omar El Akkad because I was seeing it all over the place. It won the National Book Award and was on a number of high-profile lists. I've been interested in learning more about Palestine for some time, especially after the October 7, 2023 attack on Israel by Hamas, and the subsequent violence from Israel against Palestinians. I found this book very well written and eye opening.

Omar El Akkad was born in Cairo, Egypt. When his father got a job in Doha, Qatar, Omar moved with his family to Qatar, growing up in that country. Later, he moved to Canada where he became a journalist. Now he lives near Portland with his wife and daughter. It seems that El Akkad wrote One Day because it was killing him to see all of the death, destruction, and suffering of Palestine and its people. At the same time, the United States is blithely supporting Israel, only murmuring the occasional platitude when confronted. The hypocrisy is strong with both American political parties. El Akkad points out numerous times how Americans are constantly trumpeting buzzwords like "freedom and morality" but as soon as it is in America's (or its leader's) interest, any high ideals that we pretend to espouse are thrown out the window--especially when it's something happening far away and involves "others".

    "One of the hallmarks of Western liberalism is an assumption, in hindsight, of virtuous resistance as the only polite expectation of people on the receiving end of colonialism. While the terrible thing is happening--while the land is still being stolen and the natives still being killed--any form of opposition is terroristic and must be crushed for the sake of civilization. But decades, centuries later, when enough of the land has been stolen and enough of the natives killed, it is safe enough to venerate resistance in hindsight." (18)

One thing that El Akkad talked about that hit me deeply was the way in which western reporters cover the war in Palestine, and the language they use. When Israel is the attacker, it's passive voice and a clinical presentation. A Palestinian girl was unfortunately hit by a bullet during the conflict. But when the violence is from the Palestinian side, it is described as "terrorists" and intentional violence. Just listening to the news, it's difficult to get an idea of the scope of the intentional killing and destruction that Palestine was enduring.

I am moderately informed and occasionally read the news, but I was getting a better feel of what was going on in Palestine from Instagram reels--although these were very hard to watch. What was frustrating, though, is that I did not necessarily trust the Reels because I didn't know where they came from or how reliable they were. Yet when I looked up specific things I'd seen on Instagram that were especially egregious, they were all turning out to be true. 

It was Instagram Reels, famous advocates like Greta Thunberg raising awareness, and even the International Criminal Court putting an arrest warrant out for Netanyahu that made me more aware of how immoral the United States (by supporting Israel) was acting. In December 2024, the Human Rights Watch and Amnesty International accused Israel of genocide. It's not the side of history I wanted to be on.

Another thing that El Akkad discussed in One Day that really changed my thinking is how the United States frames its actions. Any violence perpetrated against us is terrorism by madmen who are intent on destroying our way of life. But any violence perpetrated by the United States is a "justified and measured response with unfortunate collateral." No matter how you phrase it, though, blowing up someone's home or killing someone's child is still blowing up someone's home or killing someone's child. The damage is the same. Just because the United States is powerful enough to call their violence "legal" doesn't make it any better.

I was still reading this book when Trump and Hegseth started their war against Iran. I still don't understand why they started it, what they hope to achieve, or what they think is going to happen in the long run, but it deeply underscores El Akkad's point. The United States just blew up a school that killed over 150 children. They can say they didn't mean to and they'll look into it, but the damage has been done. Let's explain to the parents of those children that we're not the terrorists.

I still am very ignorant about both the history and current situation in Palestine. (Although One Day was very moving, it is not a history book). [I am looking for a well-researched, concise, and accurate history of Palestine and Israel if anyone has suggestions.] Perhaps I am too idealistic, but I don't want to choose any sides here. I want the killing and inhumanity to stop, so I am against anyone not treating others as people. That means the war crimes Israel has perpetrated, the occupation of Palestine, the violence by Hamas on October 7th, the settlers pushing people out of their homes, and the United States attacking Iraq and Iran for lies and distraction and causing irreparable harm.

Highly recommended.

#11 [2026/CBR18] The Anxious Perfectionist by Clarissa W. Ong and Michael P. Twohig

I've been reading a lot of self-help books lately for a number of reasons. It is great when something I read can make a concrete difference in my life. I just recently read another book on perfectionism, called The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control. That book was interesting, but a little frustrating and left me wanting more. So, I listened to The Anxious Perfectionist (2022) by Clarissa W. Ong and Michael P. Twohig hoping for a better understanding of perfectionism and how it might affect me.

Although The Anxious Perfectionist did not have the fun quiz that began the last book I read on perfectionism, I found this one a little easier to read and digest. I found a number of practical actions that could be helpful and will be trying to incorporate into my life.

First, the author recommends letting go of your labels and stories. Basically, these are words you use to identify with yourself or others. For instance: "I'm so unorganized, hopeless, bad in social contexts", or whatever it might be. These labels are natural but they can force you into a box--making it hard to be anything else. And they might not even be true in the first place. 

Secondly, the authors advise that you focus on your values: what really matters to you. Honesty, virtue, hard work, friendship, integrity, learning, enjoying the outdoors. Everyone has different values, so it's important to really think about what matters to you. Then you can decide from there to do things that feed your values. 

Much like the first book I read on perfectionism, these authors understand that perfectionists are often overwhelmed, afraid of failure, or otherwise unwilling to get started on things that really matter to them. They urge using your values to help push you into action. You might not want to put yourself out there and sign up for a class, but if you have a value of learning, it might be worth it. The authors mention that perfectionists often want to wait for the perfect conditions before starting a new project (definitely me), but getting one half or even a quarter of something done is better than nothing. And when you begin again, you won't have as much left to do.

I've found that my brain is always looking to finish everything all at once, so I'll finally have nothing to worry about. My house will be perfect, my job will be perfect, and everything will be caught up. Obviously, this is never going to happen, but I've found that even reaching for it increases my anxiety. I've discovered that it's better to just have one or two small things I know I can get done and focus on those and only those. That way I stay productive and I can feel fulfilled by the small things that I have accomplished. I can't let my mind run off with grand, unrealistic dreams, or think about every single problem that might come up as I try to fulfill those grand dreams.

The authors use the acronym SMART to help lay out goals that go with your values. SMART (which my husband told me is widely used in business schools as well) stands for: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. Relevant means that it supports your values and time bound means that it must have a deadline. I've had a goal of finishing a book I wrote for NaNoWriMo many years ago. However, without a hard deadline, that goal is meaningless--as you can see from my still unfinished draft.

Ong and Twohig also discuss being kind to yourself (which has come up in pretty much every self-help book I've read recently, so it must be important), and constantly reevaluating your goals to make sure they continue to align with your values. 

I've been considerably more productive since reading these two books on perfectionism. Although I still don't feel like I understand exactly when I'm being a healthy go-getter versus an unhealthy striver/avoider, I think I'm moving in the right direction.

#10 [2026/CBR18] The Look by Michelle Obama

I am a big fan of Michelle Obama, and I find news about either Obama kind of nostalgic and reassuring these days. So, I picked up The Look (2025) by Michelle Obama from my library as soon as I heard about it. It is probably relevant that I do not have a strong interest in fashion. Although I like to sometimes browse through movie stars' dresses from award shows or look at wedding dresses, I personally dress only for comfort. My job and my lifestyle do not require anything special, so I live most of my life in workout clothes. 

The Look is a coffee-table-sized book that dives into Michelle Obama's style from before, during, and after her time in the White House. The primary focus of this book is her time as First Lady, and there are many beautiful pictures throughout. Looking back at their time in the White House, I always thought Michelle Obama looked nice, but I never thought much about all the work that went into it.

You might think that an entire book filled with pictures of outfits is just a fluffy lifestyle read, but I found it to be a very interesting book. In a country and a world where women are judged more directly for their appearance, Michelle Obama was the first Black First Lady in the United States--ramping up the pressure she felt exponentially. There were political rivals ready to pounce on her if she did anything that did not "live up to" the high office that she and her husband held. 

Under all of this pressure, Michelle Obama used her sway as first lady to highlight new designers that might otherwise be overlooked. She also chose to wear clothes that were comfortable and practical, looking professional and appropriate, but also approachable. Obama's stylist, Meredith Koop wrote a section of the book, describing how she became Obama's stylist, how she picked clothes out for Michelle, and how much work went into every outfit. In addition, Obama had someone who did her makeup and someone else who did her hair. They all worked together to create a seamless image.

Probably the most eye-opening part of this book was how much work went into all of this. Multiple, specially designed outfits, were chosen for each part of every day. They took into account the location, the time of day, the nature of the event, the weather, and other cultural aspects. Meredith would often find an American designer with ties to whatever country Michelle was visiting to show respect to that country. I am impressed by what Michelle Obama was able to do, and how much time and effort went into it. 

The State Dinners were a huge affair, and for every one Michelle had the perfect dress, hair, and makeup. All of it was incredibly thoughtful, strategic, and flattering. The pictures in the book do a great job showing these dresses off. But what really hit me was that Barack Obama wore the same black tuxedo for every state dinner. I'm not sure what, if anything, he did as far as hair and makeup, but it's safe to say that Michelle Obama's look took a lot more effort. Now, I don't want to get rid of style and dressing up; the world would certainly be less interesting. However, think of what else women could get done if they didn't have to spend such a disparate amount of time, money, and energy worrying about all of this. Or if there were an acceptable equivalent of a black tuxedo for women, something they could throw on for a special occasion, pulling out of their closet over and over again for any fancy occasion without judgment or expectation.

Michelle Obama also talks about her hair in this book. Being a white girl who grew up in a pretty white neighborhood, my first experience learning about Black hair was through Chris Rock's documentary Good Hair. Michelle Obama talks about how the first time she got braids when she was young, she felt freedom. However, she knew the country expected a certain look from its first lady, and she did not want the political conversation to turn into a discussion about her hair. So, she kept it straight and more conservative. Now that Barack is out of politics, Michelle is able to be more free with her hair, and she has been showing the myriad hairstyles she can have with braids.

Although it is true that I cannot even imagine putting that much effort into my appearance, I found myself wondering what it would be like to have such talented people finding my clothes, and doing my hair and makeup. Would I feel like a different person, or would I still feel like myself? How much of a difference would it make? I wouldn't want the pressure Michelle Obama was under for even one second, but it would be such a fun experience to have a styling team like hers for a day. Or two. 

#9 [2026/CBR18] An Offer From a Gentleman by Julia Quinn

I've watched most of the Bridgerton series, and I generally find it entertaining. So, when the latest season became available on Netflix, I watched the first half of the season--everything that was available at the time. It is a Cinderella story, involving the second-oldest Bridgerton brother, Benedict (the spare). And I really liked it. I thought the chemistry between the two lead actors was great, and I found Benedict to be a charming, charismatic, and funny leading man.

I decided to read An Offer From a Gentleman (2001) by Julia Quinn while I waited for the rest of the show to come out. My enthusiasm for the show rolled over into the book, and I enjoyed listening to it. I finished the book before finally watching the last half of the show. Although there were a number of changes made for the adaptation, the basics of the two stories are the same.

Sophie Becket (Baek on the show) is an illegitimate child of the Earl of Penwood and a housemaid. After Sophie's mother died when she was young, she was brought to the Earl's estate. The Earl never paid much attention to her, but he saw that she was well-cared for and educated. When Sophie was still young, the Earl remarried and brought his new wife and two new step-daughters home. The new wife detested that she had to accept and deal with a bastard child from another relationship and treated Sophie horribly. Still things weren't too bad until the Earl unexpectedly died. At that point, the Earl's wife basically turned Sophie into an unpaid, overworked maid.

One day Sophie borrows an old dress and some shoes from Lady Penwood and sneaks into a costume party at Bridgerton House. While there, she meets and enchants/is enchanted by Benedict Bridgerton. However, at midnight, when the masks are supposed to come off, Sophie flees back to Penwood House. The story continues with Benedict trying to find the mystery woman in silver, and Sophie kicked out of  Penwood house when Lady Penwood discovers that she had been at the costume party.

Now that I've both read and seen this Bridgerton story, my favorite part is the first half of the television version. The book was fine, but you could tell that it was written a while ago because television Benedict was often more appealing. In the book, Benedict was enraged that Sophie refused to be his mistress. He also told her he would have her put in jail for stealing if she didn't accompany him to London. He threatened her "for her own good" of course, but it made me dislike him. In contrast, the television Benedict was much more understanding.

And I enjoyed the first half because it included the two meeting at the dance, which was very sweet. It also included their time at "My Cottage," which felt something like a fairy tale. The second half of the show had some good parts, but it felt a little more drawn out.

On the whole, this was a fun read and I enjoyed comparing the book to the television show. I generally prefer to read the book before seeing the adaptation, but I don't think it mattered much in this case.

#8 [2026/CBR18] The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

I guess I've been on something of a self-help kick lately. My therapist recommended that I read a couple of books, and now Amazon has decided to offer up some more. The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power (2023) by Katherine Morgan Schafler was one of those books. I've always had perfectionist tendencies, so when I saw The Perfectionist's Guide, I thought it might be illuminating. So I picked it up from my library.

I was really excited when I started reading this book because right away Schafler splits perfectionists into five different "types" and gives the reader a little quiz to figure out which they are. The types are: Classic, Intense, Parisian, Messy, and Procrastinator. Turns out, I'm pretty much all of them except for intense, but Procrastinator was leading the race. I've procrastinated (especially on certain things) for as long as I can remember. I'm responsible enough to get important things done by a deadline. However, if there is no deadline, and it's something I don't particularly want to do, it's probably not going to happen.

Schafler describes perfectionists as "people who consistently notice the difference between an ideal and a reality, and strive to maintain a high degree of personal accountability." She then goes on to say that there are "adaptive" and "maladaptive" perfectionists. The adaptive perfectionist uses their perfectionism as motivation, but don't require all things to go perfectly or beat themselves up over failure. The maladaptive perfectionists torture themselves trying to make everything perfect, but are ultimately disappointed because perfection is not possible.

Schafler also wrote that the reason procrastinator perfectionists procrastinate is that they wait for conditions to be perfect before starting--and conditions are never perfect. "The problem for these perfectionists is that starting a process taints it--now that it's real, it can no longer be perfect." Thus, every time a procrastinator perfectionist starts something new, it involves a real loss from what was perfect in their mind. Schafler argues that not acting also involves loss, but a much bigger loss. I found this argument interesting and compelling, and I think it will help me. However, to me it doesn't feel like loss, but a related feel of failure.

Once we were done figuring out what kind of perfectionist we were, I struggled a little bit while reading this book. Schafler talks a lot about being compassionate with yourself, but I'd already read a whole book on that. I was more interested in a more concrete understanding of why my brain would torture me in such a way. I almost stopped reading the book, but my perfectionism and FOMO kept me going. 

In the end, I found this a helpful book, although I was a little frustrated and unsure what I was learning in the middle. I really liked seeing where my procrastination was coming from, and realizing that fear of things not turning out perfectly is not a valid excuse for inaction. And I know that I'm happier when I'm busy and actually accomplishing things rather than going over and over all of the things I need to do but am not doing in my head.

#7 [2026/CBR18] Awake by Jen Hatmaker

I think I may have first seen Awake (2025) by Jen Hatmaker on NYT's Best Books of the Year List. I'm a fan of memoirs, and the blurb caught my attention. So, I borrowed the Audiobook from my library and gave it a listen.

Jen Hatmaker woke up in the middle of the night in July 2020. Her husband was in bed next to her, declaring into his phone that he loved another woman. At this point, they had five children and had been married for twenty-six years. They got married when she was only nineteen years old. I cannot begin to imagine how she felt in this moment as well as the ensuing days, weeks, and months.

So, Jen Hatmaker is a bestselling author of fourteen books, a podcaster, and has her own book club. However, I had not heard of her until picking up this book. Hatmaker grew up very religious, and it seems that more of her earlier work was done in the religious field. I am very far from religious and generally do not have much to do with those circles.

Hatmaker jumps around a little in telling her story. She starts with a story about how the religious dress codes of her church made her feel as a young girl growing up--and even as an adult woman. She also recounted such a sad but relatable story from her tweens. Her friends ditched her and ran away from her when the boys didn't like her. And she described how she and her husband got married so young. Spoiler alert: they were very religious and they wanted to have sex.

Hatmaker describes how her husband left their family home immediately after she found out about his affair, and how difficult this was for her. She really leaned on her friends and family, and also used therapy and anti-depressants. I think for the sake of her kids (and probably even her husband), Hatmaker is pretty discreet when talking about her children as well as her relationship with her husband. She mentions that there were problems that she ignored or tried to cover up and they had been in an unhealthy, codependent relationship. She also mentions that after her husband left their home, she was virtually a single parent. I am not sure why he was MIA or how much interaction he has with his kids now. 

Because Hatmaker started out in religious circles, she got quite a bit of flak when she used her own mind to come to conclusions that the religious right doesn't approve of. There were shame-y articles written when her divorce became public. And there was a lot more censure when she stopped going to church and denounced Trump. Hatmaker also discussed how she became aware of Black Lives Matter and was disappointed that her white congregants could so easily turn away from the struggles and injustices she was trying to show them.

This book captured my attention and was easy to listen to. I found Hatmaker to be a good, persuasive writer and an engaging, if very animated, reader. 

#6 [2026/CBR18] Mate by Ali Hazelwood

Shortly after I finished Bride by Ali Hazelwood, the second book in this world: Mate (2025), became available. So, I quickly read that one as well. In many ways, Mate is very similar to Bride in that it is a love story involving weres, humans, and vampyres.

We meet Serena at the end of Bride. She is best friends with Bride's protagonist, and she'd been kidnapped because she was half-were and half human--something heretofore unheard of in this world. At the very end of Bride, Koen Alexander, the Alpha wolf of the Northwest pack runs into Serena, and it is immediately clear that she is his mate.

We discover Serena at the beginning of Mate as she runs for her life from a vampyre. It turns out that Serena had been feeling very ill, and after talking to some Were doctors, she thought she was dying. Instead of telling anyone (like her best friend), Serena decides her best course of action is to hide up in a cabin in the middle of nowhere and suffer through the night sweats on her own. Koen shows up just in the nick of time to save her, and he takes her back to his home. 

But now that Serena is back among the living with Koen, it is harder for her to hide her symptoms. The two primary things keeping Serena and Koen apart are Serena's belief that she's dying and the pack law that the Alpha remain celibate. Koen cannot be with Serena, even though they are mates. And if he steps down as Alpha, there will be a power vacuum that may destroy the pack.

I enjoyed Bride much more than Mate for a number of reasons. First, Koen acted disinterested in Serena for a big portion of the book. It didn't feel very romantic to me. Second, I couldn't understand why Serena was so secretive about her sickness. She didn't want her friend to worry about her, but her friend is going to suffer a lot more if Serena showed up dead with no warning.

I was pretty certain early on that Serena was in heat (or something like that). Although it's pretty funny that all the male doctors had no idea what was going on, how did everyone around her not understand what was happening? Once it was figured out, Koen seemed to know all about it and exactly what to do. Also, how often does this happen? Is Serena effectively incapacitated for months at a time every year? Twice a year?

I was also frustrated with the, "Koen can't have a romantic partner storyline". We already know this isn't necessary because the Alpha in Bride has a mate with no issues. And people can be used as bait whether you're officially sleeping with them or not. It felt like an artificial block in order to keep the story going.

This was still a quick read, and generally kept my attention. However, I preferred Bride, and I do hope that Hazelwood takes a break from paranormal and goes back to my favorite type of her books.