I have read a couple other memoirs involving rape, and I think they are important in shedding light on how damaging rape is and how difficult the legal system is for rape victims. It's after reading some of these that I wonder how any victims manage to get through this process. I read Know My Name by Chanel Miller back in 2023, and it was very eye-opening--even though I already knew the basic facts. Miller did a phenomenal job describing the long-lasting physical and emotional impacts of Brock's assault and the subsequent court proceedings.
Not My Type (2025), although it covers similar ground, has a very different feel. E Jean Carroll was 81 when Not My Type was published. She is from a different generation, and she is a very unique woman. She is funny and opinionated and optimistic. She'd prefer to focus on the positive in her life rather than dwelling in painful memories. She is not here to psychoanalyze her feelings. Thus, Not My Type does not go into the same detail describing the emotional toll of the assault that I've seen in other memoirs. Instead, Carroll begins the book by recounting her deposition with Trump's lawyer, Alina Habba as they discuss every man she's ever had sex with. For Carroll, her sex life began after college with her then boyfriend, an Olympic swimmer, and continued to stay [shall we say] impressive throughout most of her life. But after Trump attacked her in the dressing room at Bergdorf Goodman, she never had sex again.
Because Carroll focuses more on clothing, random asides, and specifics of the trial, her true emotional state mostly comes through with inference. We hear that Trump destroyed her sex life, we hear that she can't even talk about the hundreds of thousands of ugly threats she received after Trump publicly denounced her. Occasionally, Carroll becomes emotional on the Audiotape when talking about her legal team, and you can see how hard this all is on her.
Carroll describes many parts of the trials in great detail, and I learned a lot about what led up to the assault, as well as specific testimony in each of the trials. In fact, I didn't even know there were two trials when I started the book. I loved Carroll's descriptions of all of the attorneys involved, and the testimony was really interesting. It almost made me want to read an entire transcript of the trial. What really stood out, though, was how aggressively Joe Tacopina, Trump's attorney, went after Carroll on cross examination. I can only imagine the optics of a giant, muscle bound man deriding an 80-year-old woman for not screaming when she was sexually assaulted.
I was not looking to read this book until I saw it was available when I was looking for a new Audiobook to read. Now I'm glad I listened to it. Carroll deserves a chance to share her story in a way that is unfettered by Trump's attorneys throwing judgment and blame at her. I'm glad that I now know what she went through and how brave she is to stand up to Trump (well, really, his attorneys). I hope she gets all the money that's owed her.






